Summary of The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

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Part VI: Feminine Attractiveness

Chapter 39: The Feminine Is Abundant

If a man feels that there aren’t enough women, or that life isn’t giving him what he wants, he is simply negating his relationship to the feminine. There is never a shortage of feminine energy, only a resistance to receiving, trusting, and embracing it.

Whenever you’re feeling lonely, feel the present moment as if it were a woman. Kiss her, hug her, feel her breasts.

Do the same with real women.

Chapter 40: Allow Older Women Their Magic

You’re likely more attracted to young women than older ones. It’s ok. It doesn’t mean that you should not respect older women. Each age has its advantages.

Chapter 41: Turn Your Lust Into Gifts

When you see a beautiful girl, you often feel sexual energy. Most men diffuse this energy with fantasies. Don’t do that. Keep the energy and make it circulate inside.

Chapter 42: Never Allow Your Desire to Become Suppressed or Depolarized

When a man denies his desire for the feminine, either by choice or due to familiarity, it is a sign of his depolarization even toward the world.

When you decide to fully engage the world and women, you need to remain masculine. Otherwise, you will resist, resent, and reject both.

This is the choice between putting up with your girl, and fully loving her, and accepting her for who she is. The former will ruin the relationship while the latter will maintain it.

It is not time that kills delight, but familiarity, neutralization, and lack of purpose.

A mediocre man quits something when he loses interest. The newness gets him his interest and polarization back. This should be the other way around. You shouldn’t lose your polarity whatever happens.

So, why do you lose it in the first place? Because of familiarity.

Familiarity breeds depolarization and depolarization breeds contempt among lovers.

As you are depolarized, you treat your woman with neutral sexual energy. She’ll feel it and resent you for it.

Chapter 43: Use Her Attractiveness as a Slingshot Through Appearance

A man’s attraction to women must be converted from attraction to women into attraction through women.

Women can attract you, heal you, and inspire your gifts, but they will never satisfy you absolutely. Never. And you know this.

The play of your body wanting her body is the most obvious hoax of fulfillment. If you have ever gotten the woman you’ve wanted, you know that it’s never as good as you hoped for, at least not for very long. And yet you continue to be attracted, over and over and over, to the same woman or to different women. It’s all the same thing. You are deceived by the mirage of your own desire. You are deluded by your own excitement.

You’ve had nurturing. You’ve had wild passion. And none of it lasted. It wasn’t even that good as long as it did last. Your need is far deeper than any woman can provide. So what is it?

Your ultimate desire is for the union of consciousness with its own luminosity, wherein all appearance is recognized as your deep, blissful nature, and there is only One.

In a moment of attraction, let your desire feel to her, but don’t stop there. Feel through her.

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